Know that you're not alone in coming across such people. I've come across such people (both men and women) at church (of all places), relatives, school (the cool cliques/bullies), college, and other random places outside of home. As a guy, one of the most frustrating things is coming across sociopathic women (I'm sure it's the same for women who come across sociopathic males). That can tear you down, so you need to be aware of that pit. However, be glad regarding such rejection (their beauty is not worth you being destroyed later on). You may wonder why beautiful/attractive women may not be interested in you, however, don't let the outer beauty and charm fool you from their inside state (nasty and venomous on the inside). Sociopaths are experts at being charming on the outside and cultivating a desire in us to want them (befriend them, chase them/romance them), however, they will destroy you once they befriend you/get close to you. I've had both male and female friends (wolves in sheep's clothing) who turned out to be sociopaths- which was a hurtful experience. You can't expect anything better from the very sons and daughters of Satan. Just like how poisonous reptiles (snakes, lizards) tend to have an outer bright color to warn us to stay away from them- God's children need to be able to recognize such warning signs from their character (in the the case of humans, you can't rely on their outer appearance and charm, you have to dig deeper and look at their character to see danger signs. I highly recommend you reading more about recognizing sociopaths from my posts on this blog and also other outside resources). There's a huge contrast/difference between God's children and Satan's children. Indecency is characteristic of Satan's children. Like the Bible says, light can't mix with darkness. Light exposes darkness, hence that's why people with spiritual darkness in them hate the light from God which shines through you- as it will expose their evil deeds and call them to change. Sociopaths don't want to change- they love wallowing in their mud (sin). Therefore, you have to navigate around such people and look for like-minded followers of Christ who will befriend you, accept you, and treat you right. Refer to the following link- "Do people hate you on sight?"
When I've approached Indian/mallu girls for dating in the past, they've acted like sociopaths towards me, as if I'm not good enough for them (I've even got this vibe from non-Indian girls like Caucasians and other groups). Of course, not every girl will find you attractive, and you have to respect free will, however, this was more than that. I felt something demonic and psychologically abnormal about their characters. They would get into relationships with everyone else, but then be picky with me. Even in India, I've seen an aspect regarding this. In India, I remember a married mallu (Malayalee) woman in my church used to hate me (lol, don't get me wrong, I wasn't looking for a relationship with her, but I'm bringing her example to portray how she treated me). I believe she herself was in an unhappy marriage as she was known to flirt with other men (but acted happy with her husband), especially young guys. She tried to flirt with me, but she would mistreat me at other times. She used to make comments about how fair complexioned NRI men (Indian men living outside of India) are "whitewashed"- which was directed at me as I'm very fair in complexion and I'm a NRI (so in her logic, I must automatically act like a Western Caucasians). This didn't make any sense to me as she herself was very fair, but her husband had a very dark complexion and was obese. She used to also take jabs at me on how I was skinny and that I should put on more weight (in reality I wasn't skinny at all. I was average and I worked out. However, people especially in southern India tend to be overweight and have abdominal fat. Hence, they feel everyone should look like them. Even north Indians make fun of their fat and darker skin complexion. Hence, I think those who are ridiculed displace their anger onto their fellow south Indians who have a fair complexion and are not overweight. I think many Indian women have a host of underlying psychological problems. I think they hate good looking Indian men (whom they couldn't have or perhaps can't have for some reason), and they try to tear them down to bring them down in their own minds. I've seen them doing the same to women who they feel intimidated by. That's why this woman was trying to tear me down in order to satisfy the need in her mind to satisfy the deficiencies she found in her own husband. In reality, she found me attractive (that's why the flirtation), but this was causing dissonance in her as she compared me with her husband in her own mind. In the end, she's the one in an unhappy marriage, putting up an act, and taking out her misery on others. This is why arranged/forced marriages need to be banned. What is the point of it if it's going to make people even more miserable? I've written more on this in another post "Arranged marriages/forced marriages among Indian Christians"). I believe that Satan uses sociopaths around us (both carnal Christians and non-Christians) to target others to destroy them psychologically. I've been a victim by both groups (carnal Christians and non-Christians). Sociopaths can vary- they can be very beautiful (if women), handsome (if men) or even be those who aren't physically attractive (among both groups of men and women). The unattractive ones will likely have a hatred for you (if you're very physically attractive or somewhat physically attractive), and take their hatred out on you by being a sociopath towards you. They can't get away with such treatment against their attractive sociopathic counterparts, as they would put them in their place. Attractive sociopaths will also likely target you if they see you as a threat. All sociopaths know how to sense each other through their interactions with each other. They can also sense who is not a fellow sociopath and then prey on them. Sometimes, you may try to befriend an individual or group of people and then get rejected. They might make you jump through hoops for them in order for you to be accepted by them-then either accept or reject you. If they accept you (they usually accept you only when they find some use for you- to manipulate you for their own agendas), they'll just continue their control, manipulation, and domination of you. At other times, whenever sociopaths want to find prey, they themselves will befriend you and try to get to know you- to fully analyze you (figuring out your strengths and weaknesses- so that they can try to weaken your strengths and target your weaknesses). If you try to avoid talking to them (many times, your gut feeling will tell that you're an outsider to the "kool" groups), sometimes they'll confront you and ask why you don't mingle much with others. You really have to play it smart with them. Remember, sociopaths are hunting for prey. If you reject a sociopath, they hate that and will try to make you feel as if you're missing out on something great by not being with them. They can also talk behind your back and spread things about you to make you look bad/weird in front of others. All sociopaths tear others down to elevate themselves and at the same time manipulate their victims into thinking they're not good enough for them and instill a desire to want/pursue them. Many good looking men and women have their self esteem destroyed through such psychological abuse by sociopaths. Sociopaths also love keeping tabs on others- which makes them into stalkers. They'll call you, look at your social media updates, ask others about you in order to have a mental dossier on you. In this way, society around us (governments through out the world and other institutions) have been getting exposed more and more by the media and whistleblowers for doing the same things to their citizens. It shows that such sociopaths (who are led by Satan) should not be in power. It's not a surprise that when Satan, the sociopath, tempted Jesus Christ in the desert, he said that he would give Jesus all the kingdoms of the world if Jesus would bow down to him. It shows how Satan has even made the kingdoms/governments of the world into his sociopathic followers and they are under his influence.
Sociopaths have an obsession to always be in control and above others. Sociopaths among Indians are notorious for this. It took me a long time to finally learn about sociopaths and learning how to recognize them. Too many of these sociopaths are out there, but the key is to navigate through that crowd and find like-minded people who will appreciate you. Avoid sociopaths like the plague, they will destroy you. If you are a guy, don't even make any friends with male nor female sociopaths. They are that dangerous. Again, I speak from my own experience. Pertaining to romantic interests, never pursue a female sociopath (the same applies to women- never pursue a relationship with a male sociopath). Sociopaths fail to realize that God is preparing to make a barbecue out of them and feed them to maggots in the lake of fire for eternity. They are clueless and oblivious to the spiritual danger they are facing right now- they're too busy being evil.
In India, many are obsessed with wanting a fair skin complexion (they have beauty/skin products designed for that for both men and women), but when they see others having that naturally, they hate it and they take their frustrations out on them. Some of my dark complexioned mallu male friends used to hate their own complexion and would express their desire to have a complexion like mine. They acted shady. At times, they would let me know that they desired my fair complexion, however, at other times, they would try to make me feel that I'm not attractive to Indian women. They tried to play mind games with me by revealing that they asked some Indian women they knew (both older and same age- who were the mothers and sisters of the guys in our group of friends) regarding who looked more attractive among our group. They would rave about only certain guys among our group of friends and then leave me out in order to test my reaction. At first, I was wondering why they would reveal such things when I never asked for such information. Then it clicked how it was all part of their shady mind games in order to make my feel envious and react as well as destroy my self-esteem. One of them actually admitted to me much later (when the topic of marriage came up) that I was handsome (which felt disturbing coming from a guy), but they didn't want to admit that as they thought it would get to my head. So, they didn't want me to become a narcissist, but used that as the excuse to make themselves feel better/elated. Thus, you can see how shady Indian men can be. Many of them are very dangerous narcissistic sociopaths, who are experts at psychological warfare (mind games). They only want the best for themselves and try to push others off the ladder of success. Sounds like what Satan and his demons do and thus, it makes sense why human sociopaths are actually the children of the devil (they act just like him). Many among these same group of friends- pursued fair complexioned women for dating/relationships and marriage (they, as well as other Indian men, actually make that into a competition- seeing who can land a fair complexioned Indian woman while many Indian women tend to be unhappy landing up with dark complexioned men and try to suppress that). I remember showing them a picture of a marriage proposal that I received and she had a darker brown complexion. They didn't find her attractive while I did. I look forward to the day when the tables turn on them- i.e. since they don't value dark complexioned women, I hope they also stop getting fair complexioned women also. Jerks like these should never populate the earth. I've always wondered why fair complexioned women marry such jerks? Many fair complexioned Indian women themselves think they are better than dark complexioned women (thought it should be also mentioned that many dark complexioned women provoke and mistreat fair complexioned women out of their envy towards them, even when some fair complexioned women don't display narcissistic behavior to provoke their counterparts and make them feel inferior). So why then do narcissitic fair complexioned Indian women marry a dark complexioned Indian man? Perhaps, it is multi-factorial. Many women (regardless of complexion and amount of beauty) today will marry anyone for money/financial security. Also, I've heard some women saying how they are willing to date or marry unattractive men so that they can feel better about themselves and protect their ego. If their mate was equally or more attractive than them, then this could affect their power and manipulation. In western countries, I've been hearing regarding more and more dark complexioned Indian girls now going for white men. I can totally understand now why that's happening. Better to look for greener pastures instead of getting psychologically abused by a bunch of sociopathic nutjobs.
Coming back to Indian women, I'm wary of them now. I've had bad observations and experiences with them. Looking at my relatives, I've seen how married Indian women treat their husbands- tear them down psychologically, trying to control and manipulate them, etc. I've also seen a feminist controlling/dominating type of behavior exerted over males- among non-married females among my relatives and also among other Indian women I was interested in dating for marriage. Hence, I've observed this new desire to dominate among both married and non-married women. In one church I attended, the young women (aged in their 20s and all of them were single) who had their own fellowship group were notorious for being like that (i.e. they wanted to control and dominate the younger guys in our assembly when they did church activities together- ex. making certain decisions pertaining to activities- it's like their way or the highway. Then they would put on this hypocritical holy character- i.e. they would come down on people who were in premarital relationships in the church, but they themselves would be guilty of pursuing guys in the church during other times). One of my friends used to call them terrorists. lol. (For more regarding feminism from a Christian perspective, refer to "Ten Lies of Feminism") Of course traditional Indian men are notorious for being abusive and controlling also (physical aggression, being lazy pertaining to household work- not helping the wife, ordering the wife around, etc.). I find myself in the middle of all this- I'm like the nice guy (I don't plan on being like the traditional abusive husband). Every Indian girl I've approached has called me the "nice guy." They have no problems in casual hook ups with lustful guys (in high school, college, and afterwards) that hop in the bed with the next girl they can find (use them like disposable pleasures), but a long term relationship with a "nice guy" is out of the question for them. I remember one Indian proposal I had. She had a prestigious degree and was the daughter of a church leader). She brought up the need to discuss our past relationships and sexual history, which I had no problem with. I told her I've never even kissed a girl and never had sex either. She then told me that she was in a relationship with 1 guy and the most she did was kiss. I expressed my disappointment, and then later on she told me that she lied and that in truth, she had actually kissed 3 guys (all mallus) in the past. That pissed me off even more as I thought it was unfair for me to have remained pure while these kind of girls who think highly of themselves, do whatever they want. At the same time, she told me that the guys she's been with were not attractive compared to me. Indian women's psychology puzzled me more at that point. Here I was thinking I'm not good enough for most Indian women- and then this girl admits that girls like her hook up with guys even if they don't think they are attractive. At that point, I realized, they don't function by normal logic. Lol, they defy logic at least pertaining to guys like me. I think many girls (both Indian and non-Indian) may choose guys who they can dominate and control, so they may choose guys who may not be as attractive in their own eyes (compared to other guys) and also other's views. I'm not implying that unattractive men and women should be discriminated against by their attractive counterparts. In my experiences though, I just felt I was getting discriminated against while other Indian guys (who probably knew how to play women) easily get girls to kiss, have sexual activity with and further go on to marry. I'm not a sociopath and I don't use such tactics. In college, I remember, how there were notorious Indian guys who would take Indian girls (different ones weekly) frequently back to their place to bed. During those times I wondered, so girls are attracted to those kind of trashy sociopaths (sociopaths use charm as a tactic) but have an aversion for me because i'm the "nice guy" (in their eyes) who doesn't act like a sociopath to just use them and dispose of them (i.e. dispose of them along with the condom that was used with them)? At that point, it was hard not to believe the saying "girls love bad boys." What was puzzling was how such women have become so dumb though- i.e. let sociopaths degrade and violate their bodies while rejecting good guys that want a long term relationship in marriage (one man for one woman, instead of promiscuity) with them.
Sociopathic women let sociopathic men use them and dispose of them. I remember an Indian guy who I met in college and what he had told me related to this. When he joined as a freshman, he told me that someone (another Indian guy who was a more senior student) told him that he needs to have sex (he used a more vulgar word) with as many girls possible in college. From his facial expression, it sounded he liked that perverted advice he got. From that, I could see how much Satan and his demons work through people. They feed the mentality in these type of men to defile and trash young girls who are daughters of men and the future spouses of other men. I wonder how these same guys would feel if they knew other men were plotting to defile their daughters? How would they feel if others were plotting to defile their sisters? How would they feel if others were plotting to defile their future spouses? Of course, this type of mentality is not only seen in Indian men, it's also seen in all other races. I remember seeing a clip on the show "Two and a half men" where one of the characters (Alan) tells his brother (Charlie) to go defile a woman (refer to this link "Two and a half men" show encouraging defilement). Satan uses the media to seduce and brainwash people and turn them into sociopaths. Then these sociopaths are let loose in society today (these perverted sociopaths are like Satan's human henchmen to go and destroy others). Sociopathic men don't give the opportunity to get attached to the sociopathic women so that they can dominate the sociopathic men. That's why they get in and get out quickly. Then the sociopathic women treat the nice guys like crap. Displacement at work, perhaps?
In the church setting, I've seen the same type of narcissistic sociopathic attraction (sociopaths being attracted to each other). I've seen girls swarm to the guys leading praise and worship team/band. Every guy that knows how to play a guitar (or any other instrument) and sing somewhat was eye candy to them. Many of these people are forced by their own parents to take part in everything in church so that they compete with others and be always no. 1 at everything. So in a way, it helps such guys land church girls. If you have a prestigious degree/job, it magnifies that attraction even more in which at that point, both the parents and their daughters who are that superficial to focus on fame and glory- will swarm to you. Even if the guys lead a double life- i.e. partying, clubbing, sleeping around, going to strip clubs outside of their church life (church girls will be doing many of the same also)- none of that matters ultimately to the parents and their daughters if you are active in church (superficially active, but spiritually dead inside) and moreover supplement that with a prestigious degree/high paying job.
Narcissistic sociopaths attract each other (I've seen a prevalence of this in the Indian community). All they care about is glory- i.e. using each other for self glory. They use each other as trophy husbands, trophy wives, and more sadly, as trophy children. They also are willing to marry anyone (even a sociopath) who is willing to pay for/share their financial debts (ex. college loans). In that sense, marriage has become business minded. I don't know how others are able to do it, but I wouldn't take on any promiscuous girl's financial debts- that's just robbing me in multiple ways. However, I wouldn't mind helping out a woman who has kept herself pure for me.
Of course, many Indian adult children are also forced into marriage. Indian parents give priority to the level of prestige of the educational degree and salary when they look for a spouse for their adult children. If they carry prestige in those areas, they just force or pressure their sons and daughters to marry such people. This is because Indian parents want bragging rights against other Indian parents/adults. The reality is that older Indian adults tend to psychologically abuse each other as well as the youth in these communities. They brag about their own accomplishments and then tear others down, trying to make them feel inadequate. The older adults then take it out own their own children. If the adults know they can't match up to them, they make their own kids go and match up or outdo the constant bragging narcissists. I could care less about their bragging rights or competing with these narcissistic sociopaths. People can only do everything according to the abilities God has given them. God hasn't called everyone to become doctors, engineers, or be in some other prestigious field. God only expects you to commit your desires to Him and give it your best whatever you choose to pursue. People have their limitations. It doesn't make them inferior to others if they don't end up getting a prestigious degree and job. Unfortunately, society has become too self destructive to teach that to others. If I'm not physically attracted to a woman that I'm supposed to marry, no sex is going to ever happen with them. This is what is ignored by Indian parents. Arranged/forced marriages cause Indian men and women to end up marrying people whom they're not really attracted to. They are forced to love and have sexual relations with a person of their parent's choosing (this is a rapist setup). When you interact with Indian adults other than your parents, they will reinforce the brainwashing that takes place in Indian families- for the need to have absolute obedience to your parents (regarding all areas of your life- choosing a spouse, choosing a career, etc.). It's just like how cult leaders operate- they demand absolute obedience and devotion. Indian parenting is really a dictatorship. Both Indian parents and adults tend to use sociopathic tactics like "love bombing" and "gaslighting." They'll put guilt trips on you by saying how hard your parents have worked to support you and their love for you and make you feel as if you need to obey all of their demands (this is an example of love bombing). They'll even try to focus on your weaknesses or failures to spin it around and make you look like the bad person. If they've caused problems in your life, they'll shift all blame off of themselves and shift the blame on to you (they demand to be always right and never in the wrong). This is an example of gaslighting. To such sociopathic Indian adults, you have to unconditionally obey their unrealistic and irrational demands- even forced marriage. Being an Indian, it's hard for me to admit that the Indian community is one of the most dangerous, abusive, cultic and narcissistic sociopathic environments I've ever come across. It's a living nightmare being born into an Indian family. You are thrown into an abusive environment which psychologically destroys you. It's pretty much impossible to not see it as a curse. I have no idea why God puts people into such abusive environments. Regardless, may the Name of the Lord be blessed. People (Indian Christians who are Calvinists) who don't believe in free will in regards to salvation will probably have a tendency to negate it in regards to marriage also. Thus, you get a combo of theological and cultural negation of free will. I believe Calvinism/free grace theology feeds such sociopathy because they are sociopathic ideologies. Thus, if you grow up in an environment where your parents, relatives and church members are sociopaths- it's a living nightmare. When possible, you need to cut off ties with all sociopaths in your life (refer to "FAQ about abusive, narcissistic, and psychopathic relatives").
Coming back to the proposal, the girl I was talking about also told me she used to get drunk and go clubbing (where she admitted to dirty dancing). I never did any of these things as I was involved in my local church ministry in an Indian church. Moreover, Indian churches are environments where whatever morally questionable things you do- they'll gossip about you and then crucify you). Indian parents and youth are notorious for being gossips. They engage in gang stalking- where they'll spy on you wherever they socialize with you and also spy on your social media accounts. Then they'll gossip about you. The thing is, they try to portray themselves to be holy and righteous while covering up their own sinful behavior (even on social media). Thus, they are some of the biggest hypocrites out there. Hence, I was even more careful. However, do you see their sociopathic hypocrisy? It's like certain people in such churches (the elite- those in leadership or positions of financial influence- they and their kids can do whatever evil they want and no one are allowed to correct/discipline them. They'll twist and distort Scripture to say that you can't judge them and they are righteous in the sight of God because Christ died for them (I believe this is an example of gaslighting- a tactic that sociopaths use). Thus they pervert salvation and the Gospel. However, the ordinary members are crucified by the same hypocrites if they do any sin. Thus, they put you in an environment of their hypocritical control, domination and fear). That is a tormenting experience in different ways- (1). you have to live cautiously fearing who's watching your every move, (2). seeing such hypocrites do whatever they want (especially engaging in premarital relationships) tempts others also (it definitely tempted me, but I knew I couldn't do those things for fear of gossip against me and then getting crucified (psychological abuse) because of that). Such Christian hypocrites who tempt others to sin should heed the warning of Christ in Matthew 18:6-7.
Coming back to the girl, when she found out that I had a clean past and how I hadn't kissed any girls, she told me that "we need to change that." Lol, I have no idea what she meant by that- i.e. not sure if that was trying to say for me to go and kiss or hook up with random girls to even the disparity between us? So much for a daughter of a conservative mallu Christian church leader. However, I've been seeing a prevalence of this among other Indian/mallu girls (both daughters of church leaders and non-leaders). I think it's also an observation that others have seen among non-Indian Christians- how the pastor's/preacher's daughter ends up having a double life. There's even a show framed on this- "Preacher's Daughters" a docusoap on the Lifetime channel. Apparently, such Christians don't have a clue how God expected Jewish priests and their families to conduct themselves in the Old Testament as well as church elders/leaders and their families in the New Testament (refer to Leviticus 21:9 and 1 Timothy 3:4-5). I've learned that if they claim to be conservative Indian and conservative Christian, it's likely a fake form of it.
Most Indian women are absurd. Many women end up making mistakes because of this as such superficial and lustful relationships end up being abusive towards each other (sociopathic men and sociopathic women destroying each other- as sociopaths always want to be the dominant one). Of course, I hear of the same happening among non-Indian women also. I think the problem in general with all women (regardless of race/culture) is that they are under God's curse (just like men, but each has their own effects/consequences because of the curse). Perhaps, that explains why many of them act like sociopaths and why godly men will likely find a difficult time finding and being compatible with women. I don't think any married Christian man out there hasn't faced the battle against a controlling wife- a woman who loathes being submissive to their husband, as it makes them feel weaker/inferior. Such women may not understand, it's God's curse for what Eve (the first woman and the mother of all creation) did. God's judgment against women was- their husbands would rule over them. However, many women are rebelling against that judgment. That's why you see a rise in feminism among both Christians and non-Christians. I'm not advocating for men to abuse their God given dominion over their wives. Husbands are taught to love their wives with a sacrificial love (which means to not abuse them/take advantage of them/ and to share/help out in their burden of work in the house), while women are taught to be in submission/obedience to their husband. I think young girls (especially among Indians) see how their fathers treat their mothers and develop a disdain for Indian men. I think abuse is common in Indian families regarding to that (refer to intimate partner abuse (IPA) involving spouses and children). Both husbands and wives are guilty of engaging in such abuse against each other and also against their children in such family environments. I personally know of one Indian family where the wife was diagnosed to have bipolar disorder and has a history sexual abuse before her marriage. Her husband's life has been a living nightmare as she's constantly suspecting him of having affairs (when he's not) and doesn't allow him to go anywhere (she keeps calling him to check on him). Interestingly, I've been coming across more and more Indian women who have mental disorders like bipolar disorder- I'm not sure if it is prevalent among Indian women. I came across a marriage proposal in the past who admitted to me of being treated for bipolar disorder. She told me how she had faced psychological abuse/bullying from a person (a classmate) during her teenage years.That caused her to have a psychological breakdown and subsequently develop bipolar disorder. This is why psychological abuse is not a joke. India and Indian communities outside of India have a tendency to be psychologically abusive environments (too many narcissistic sociopaths destroying others). The end result is people developing mental health problems as well as other problems in the body. I think the abusive environment prevalent in the Indian community (whether in India or abroad) can give rise to mental disorders. From my observation and experience, many older Indian women tend to be very abusive to everyone around them. I've seen that rubbing off on many younger Indian girls now- they tend to psychologically tear down many young Indian guys also.
As Indian fathers/mothers tend to exert over-control on their daughter's lives (as well as their male children), I think that is one of the major reasons for the rise of feminism among younger Indian women, their desire for independence especially in marriage (they don't want to be submissive to their husband as they feel that to be dominating them), and also their moral rebellion (sleeping around/promiscuity during high school, college, and afterwards. Again, it's likely tied to "daddy issues" and family psychological abuse combined with the stupidity to fall for the charm of sociopathic men who use them and dispose of them. However, they fail to realize they are only abusing themselves more by letting men enter them and dispose of them. This self abuse/mutilation would be eliminated if women would save themselves for marriage, instead of engaging in premarital sex. This self mutilation of men and women is the hidden agenda of Satan. Satan and his demons enjoy defiling God's creation- the bodies which should be belonging to God as His Temple (our bodies are now the Temple of God instead of lifeless physical buildings dedicated to Him. God wants us to dedicate our bodies (living organisms built by God Himself) to His service instead of dedicating a man made inanimate building as a temple to Him). How many times did the Israelites allow sin to control them and thereby give access to Satan and enemy nations to enter their land? How many times has Satan caused Israel to fall into idolatry and even defile the Temple in Jerusalem (refer to Ezekiel 8:12-18)? In the process, Israel destroyed themselves and were finally exiled. How many times have enemy nations come and defiled and desecrated the Temple because of Israel's sin? It's all the work of Satan to destroy and defile what should belong to God. Whatever is considered holy, Satan's aim is to defile and destroy it- especially our bodies. He despises the thought of our bodies being consecrated and glorified to the position of God's Temple. In the Garden of Eden, who did he target first? Eve. I believe that Satan hates women and uses them for his own agenda to seduce and entice men. He destroys both groups in the process. Most guys pride themselves in the number of girls they've kissed and further have had sex with. They have their own twisted and perverted mentality which is against God's design and desire for us. His design is one man for one woman- not promiscuity. It's about unity and fidelity. Promiscuity is a form of cheating- cheating your own future spouse and also someone else's spouse. God doesn't take that lightly (refer to what He commanded the Israelites do with men and women who engaged in fornication (premarital sex)- Exodus 22:16-17 and Deuteronomy 22:13-21). Even in the New Testament, He upholds for the marriage bed to be kept undefiled, both before marriage and after marriage (refer to Hebrews 13:4).
Genesis 3:16 (NLT):
"Then he said to the woman,
“I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy,
and in pain you will give birth.
And you will desire to control your husband,
but he will rule over you.”
Who is a control freak? A sociopath. Many women today desire to control others and further be the object of adoration. In the beginning, that's where women's failure began- desiring to be like God (she wanted knowledge regarding good and evil). Satan himself had the desire to be like God and even elevated himself above God. Satan deceived Eve (the mother of all mankind) to take part in that sin. Eve then deceived Adam. In my experience, the women I've come across and know well- all have the sick desire to be a god. Women will play the object of being desired in men's lives. Many times, they'll make you "work for it" and make you think that you're not good enough for them. When you land them, you are deceived to feel as if you conquered Mt. Everest. You're only likely falling into their lifelong trap of them controlling you. Many times society (controlled by Satan) even helps them to be the object of pursuit- by trying to make men feel as if they are missing something of great value in their lives and that it's abnormal to be single (they can even mock you or question you for being a homosexual). Again, who treats and manipulates others like that? Sociopaths. Many times in my own life, I've felt I've idolized women thinking that they are the ultimate answer to loneliness, romance and intimacy. The Bible sheds light to us. God is the ultimate source of every need of our lives. God did create woman as a secondary companion/helper for man, however, it wasn't for her to replace God in a man's life. Women were supposed to be the perfect secondary companion, however, sin destroyed that prospect. Now instead of being a perfect complement to man, many men will find that it's an ongoing battle with them. So for whoever is feeling lonely out there, always go to God's word (the Bible) for answers, comfort and strength. In Psalm 23:1, David says that God is his Shepherd, and furthermore that he has everything he needs in God. That's a powerful statement. Many times, we push aside God because we can't find romance and sexual intimacy which we seek with a woman. However, that's because we're looking at God from a limited perspective. When we realize that sex, companionship, and romance with a woman are not greater than God, we start seeing Him and appreciating Him more than everything else. Sex, romance and companionship with humans is temporary. Even marriage between humans is ultimately separated by death. You can't keep each other forever. Whoever is the survivor, they then are likely to pursue some other love interest. However, it is impossible for you to ever lose God. God will never dump you and you can't ever lose him to death. If you die, you go directly to Him to experience Him in a more magnified and powerful manner than you were able to on earth. Hence, none of those things are greater than God. Even the act of having sex with the most beautiful woman isn't greater than God. If a woman abandons you, what happens to a man? Most of the time, they'll be heartbroken and depressed. To get over her, they'll look for flings and try to pursue a woman even better than her. Many times, that becomes a pointless cycle. Many times I've seen guys who got dumped actually landing women less attractive than their ex-girlfriends. I remember one of them telling me how he failed to realize how ugly his ex was in the first place. I could see he was trying to suppress his real thoughts regarding his ex's beauty.
The pursuit of women is a foolish thing. It can destroy you in different ways. Depending on God for your companionship and all of your needs is the wisest thing in a sociopathic world. Investing in a woman is a risky thing in a fallen world, however, investing you time and energy with God is not risky at all. Pursuing women makes you still feel hungry and thirst. I've seen this in premarital relationships as well as in marriages among people that I know. Many times the happiness we seek through relationships ends up being unhappiness in our lives and unfulfilled expectations. However, with God, that will never happen. A relationship with God will quench your need to pursue anything else besides God. You'll find the happiness, peace, care, love, encouragement, support, companionship that you really need in God. Sex will not be there, however, sex isn't the ultimate thing to be achieved in the world. The world around us deceives us to idolize sex and have a sick obsession for sex. You have to turn your eyes away from the world and instead on to God. If you can get sex from a human, but then not find unfailing happiness, love, care, peace, etc. from them, it leaves you still hungry and thirsty. So what's the point if one desire is getting met (temporarily), but the others are not? So my point is- sex doesn't solve your ultimate thirst and hunger for the fulfillment of your needs. We all need a balance of all of our needs being met. While sex can be found with humans (even with humans, they don't provide unfailing sex), unfailing love and care from them can't be found. In reality, our desire for someone who will be unfailing to meet all of our needs is actually our real desire to be someone who is like God. Unfortunately, humans in their fallen state fail to be perfect and that's where we can hurt each other badly. Only God is good and perfect all of the time. You never have to worry about Him ever failing you, cheating on you, abandoning you for someone better, or ever doubt His love for you. God loves you and will always provide for you, even though humans may not care to do that for you. People fall in love and express their love to each other in different way, but there is no human out there that will love you more than God. The ultimate act to demonstrate that love and care for you was that He chose to give up His own Son,Jesus Christ (who had done no harm to anyone, committed no sin ever in His existence), to redeem us from our sins. God did that while we were still His enemies- we were rebelling against Him and showing our hate towards him by sinning. So even the most beautiful girl's love will never outdo or match up to God's love for you. None of them could ever redeem you, exalt you to a heavenly position of honor, and make you co-inheritors along with Christ. Just think about the magnitude of that. You have been exalted to a position that is only exceeded by God Himself. No one in heaven outranks us and Jesus Christ except for God the Father. No human can ever gift you with anything that even comes close to that kind of honor. When no one is there to help you, God will help you. I can testify of so many times where God has helped me when I didn't even deserve it. God knew I was in unfair circumstances brought to me by people that were close to me. I was lost and I was in complete darkness, not knowing how to get out of my predicaments. However, God in His compassion defied human logic and has helped to deliver me so many times. He is the God of the impossible. I can testify that there is nothing that is impossible for God. God will help you when you need it. You just need to be submissive to His plan, instead of your own. What is impossible with us, is possible for Him. I forget that and His goodness to me in the past so many times, and I have to remind myself to repent and stay close to God.
The Bible teaches that those who trust/depend on humans are accursed (refer to Jeremiah 17:5, Psalm 146:3, and Psalm 118:8). This even means that you can't ever fully trust/depend on your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, friends, parents, relatives, powerful people, etc. They can't replace God as the object of your trust and dependence- as all humans have the tendency to fail others. You can't ever predict a human's behavior because they change and do everything according to their own liking. God doesn't change like that. We all desire peace and security in every area of life- however, nothing in this world offers you absolute peace and security. Only God can offer your absolute peace and security. While human relationships can be a fight about sharing things with each other (especially materially and financially), it's never a fight with God, unless we become greedy and don't give to God what belongs to Him. God is willing to share with us- all the riches of His glory and even place us in a position of honor and power in heavenly places along with His Son, Jesus Christ (we are co-inheritors) of His future Kingdom. What God asks us to do on earth now is to give a fraction (God is not even asking for everything or even half of your belongings- even though everything you have really belongs to Him and He has given everything in your life as a gift to you) of what we have and earn to give back to Him (by tithing, by giving to those in need). When we become greedy regarding that, that's when we ourselves fight with God.
When sex becomes a strong desire in your life and you're not in a position to get married, you need to replace it with God as sex can be an idol which controls your life. At times I wondered why God created us with such desires and then put us in a fallen world. I fully don't know the answer to that, however, I've heard from other godly people as well as realized it in my own life (after people have let me down), that God uses our strong desires to draw us to Him. If we had no such desires (a thirst and longing for different needs and looking for a source to fulfill those needs), we'd never look at each other and ultimately at God. When humans fail to meet your needs, God uses that to draw you to Him.
Indian adults hate it when you leave their social communities (church, other groups) or when you decide to live independent from your parents. It's because they know they'll lose control over you. They will do whatever it takes (keep you in a cultic (cult like) environment) to keep you away from freedom by making you think you're missing out on something great by being with them. They also want that mind control over you so that you don't end up having premarital and marital relationships with non-Indians. They are sociopaths. Sociopaths are such manipulative control freaks. Satan (the father of narcissistic sociopathy) works through them. I remember one of my own relatives was trying to scare me by saying that when your time for marriage comes, it will become harder for you to find a mallu girl if you don't stick it out in an Indian church. I was like "who cares? I'm not interested in such control freaks and hypocrites that have such absurd requirements (must be attending an Indian church)." This same relative as well as some church elders (leaders) once told me that I should never ask an Indian proposal about their past sexual history. I was like, "first of all, I've never had premarital sex. Hence, I want someone who has also kept themselves pure. Why would I want to put my mouth and penis in a woman's body where other guys' penises and body fluids have been before? That thought will inevitably come across you in your sex life and it can torment you and even destroy your sex life. Whenever people (both guys and girls) have tried to make fun of me because of my virginity or not being seen in a premarital relationship (having a girlfriend or having casual sex), I would ask them a question pertaining to that- how do they psychologically handle sexual relationships with non-virgin woman (knowing that she's been with other men)? That's when they would shut up. I realized that none of them had taken the time to think about that. They've been following the sociopathic crowd all of their lives- a society which teaches them to have as much sex and defile as many women as possible. Such a perverted society even questions people's sexual orientation (questioning if they're homosexual) if they're not found to be fornicating with girls/in a premarital relationship or not married by a certain age. Society has become sex obsessed sociopaths. Satan and his demons love to tempt and deceive people into sexual immorality to cheat their future spouses (refer to Hosea 4:12 (NIV) regarding the evil spirit of prostitution). People are stupid enough to cooperate with Satan. Why cooperate with Satan to destroy yourself and torment your future spouse? I hate the thought of even anyone having kissed my future wife. Couple of years ago, I remember when I heard that Ray J came out with a song (called "I Hit It First") to mock his ex-girlfriend, Kim Kardashian, for her new relationship with Kanye West. The song is about how he is bragging about being the first to have sex with Kim, before Kanye West was able to. That type of mentality is not only with guys like Ray J, I think most guys pride themselves in their sexual conquests- having been able to defile many girls (who would then up marrying other men). Society has become pretty dumb and perverted around us. Sad thing is that even Christians have joined the sociopathy to become sexually liberal. Granted some guys may not feel like me (and they may have no problems in marrying a promiscuous girl), but I know many guys do and then they have to end up suppressing their thoughts, if they do choose to marry a promiscuous girl. Carnal Christians will teach and put guilt trips on you and say you must forgive and forget your potential spouse's (someone that you're considering for marriage) past. They themselves are promiscuous in their walk with God, so they cheapen God's grace and forgiveness to a perverted extent. The Bible doesn't ever teach that you must marry a promiscuous girl. In fact, even God was disgusted by that and issued the death penalty for women who were found to be non-virgins on their wedding night (refer to Deuteronomy 22:20-21). Today's carnal Christians.churches act sexually liberal and teach that we are no longer under the letter of the Old Testament Law. They're right in a sense, but they fail to teach that today we're under the spirit of the law. God has written His law in our hearts instead of on stone tablets. He hasn't liberalized His standard of righteousness in the process- giving Christians the right to be sexually liberal. The Bible also teaches that whether fornication or adultery, both cause a union of oneness between the culprits in God's eyes (refer to 1 Cor. 6:15-16). Carnal churches and society don't have the Biblical authority to define marriage and sexual union, only God does as He is the creator of everything, including sex. So while we should forgive sexually immoral people, God doesn't command us to marry them.
Second, how am I supposed to know if they carry the risk of having STDs and HIV if I don't ask them about their past history (refer to the article "A compulsory test for HIV before marriage?")? They had no answer to that. India has the third largest epidemic in the world for HIV. Asking their history and getting tested is fundamental because of that. They're ignorant about those kind of things. Hence, look at their mentality. All they care about is controlling you for their own agendas. They are such sociopathic hypocrites. Their daughters (as well as sons) will likely be whoring around before marriage- with whatever race of men they like, and I'm not supposed to ask about their history and further be forced to marry such sociopaths. So why should I put up with the psychological abuse (in an Indian church) and then be forced to marry some promiscuous sociopath girl who doesn't really follow the "strict" moral and cultural code among Indian Christians?
I've seen a growing trend of both Indian girls and guys now going for interracial dating and marriage. I think a lot of them got tired of the crap they have to endure in such abusive environments and decided to find greener pastures. I don't blame them one bit. Pertaining to Indian girls, I know a lot of them hate how their fathers exerted control over their mothers and themselves. Hence, it makes sense why they look at other races of men. Pertaining to Indian guys, I've come across guys who've admitted how they were traumatized seeing their mothers abuse their fathers. I've heard of one example from an Indian guy where his father divorced his mother (both Indians) and then married a Caucasian woman and lived much happier. I've personally seen what kind of dangerous sociopaths many Indian women (as well as non-Indian women) are around me. So if Indian girls and their families don't want to consider someone like me for marriage because I left the Indian church environment, I consider that a blessing! I rather not get stuck with an abusive and controlling sociopath. Greener pastures are waiting for me which God Himself has prepared for me.
Even Swami Vivekananda after visiting the state of Kerala in India, called it a mental asylum. I can totally understand why he would say something like that- as I've already explained, even I've observed that personality disorders like narcissism and sociopathy are prevalent among Malayalees. I think he himself saw the abusive environment along with people's abnormal behaviors. I believe this applies to many other areas in India also- as I've observed psychological abuse and mental disorders prevalent overall in the Indian community (not just Malayalees/Keralites). When a false gospel (sin excusing salvation message) is preached to such people, they never achieve metanoia. Rather, they remain enslaved in sin and especially their sociopathy (like I've said before, ideologies like Calvinism keep people enslaved in sin rather than calling for genuine repentance and metanoia (for more regarding this, please refer to my other posts "The Psychology of Salvation" and "More on church psychology"). Once an older mallu couple (in their late 40s) were quizzing me to test my Bible knowledge. Mallus/Indians (most adults and many youth) tend to have that irritating behavior about them- trying to test your knowledge on different things Bible, your educational field, etc. They love to see if they can expose any weakness in you so that they can go to work on that by trying to tear you down- just like sociopaths do. Most mallus/Indians take pride in their own accomplishments and knowledge and then tear others down. Those who claim to follow Christianity among them have no clue what it means to be a Christian according to the Bible ( I doubt they've read and understood Philippians 2:3). Anyway, I knew what this couple and their kids were trying to do and I wanted to teach them a lesson. I asked them about how they would explain salvation to someone who they encountered in their every day lives? They bragged about how many people they've "shared the Gospel" with, like other mallu Christians do. I had my doubts regarding their efficient evangelization methods as I see most mallus just giving gospel tracts to strangers, without really taking the time to interact with them. Hence, I asked them about how they would explain salvation to someone who they encountered in their every day lives? Neither knew how to explain salvation and furthermore, the man is actually a church leader in a local mallu church. Even the so called "smart kids" of theirs (whom they brag about being active in church, taking special Bible courses, and also their educational accomplishments) had no clue and just sat there expecting their parents to answer these questions. One of them actually laughed at their mother for remaining silent and not answering any question. She's a nurse, but one of the most nastiest narcissistic sociopaths I've come across. She prides herself in her job, in her husband's secular job and also his leadership position in church, and also tries to pride herself in her children's accomplishments. I've observed that most mallu/Indian women have this narcissistic sociopathic behavior. The more prestigious degrees and higher salaries they have, the more their heads are bigger with pride and the more nastier they behave towards others. They tend to be very abusive and controlling- both in their churches as well as home. If you go to mallu/Indian churches, you'll see the bickering and psychological abuse among women in their fellowship. They are notorious for creating problems within churches. The problems start when women (who have high status from their education, jobs, and influence in the church) bully women of lesser power and status. I've observed this in a church in recent times. Even the man (in the mallu couple I was talking about), once told me, it's better to marry a woman who will be a housewife and less educated than you. I could see why he said that, as his own wife (the nurse) wore the pants in that family (she had a higher salary than him). A very abusive and controlling woman. The same man gave me John 3:16 as the go to verse for salvation. I gave them questions which I myself encountered from my non-Christian friends. None of them knew how to answer any of those questions. I think they learned to think twice before messing with me again as they got a taste of their own medicine. However, I doubt that they will change because they are followers of Calvinism/free grace theology (which excuses them to sin freely) and furthermore, sociopaths have a low cure rate. Many Christians today are sociopaths. Satan has blinded them with sociopathic ideologies like Calvinism, which makes them think that God ignores and condones their evil behavior. They think they they live under the dispensation of grace and thus, they can freely sin without any consequences. They think they can abuse God and also their fellow human beings. I've learned that by knowing a person's view of salvation and sin, you can know if they'll make a good friend or moreover a spouse. Anyone who thinks they can abuse grace is the wrong person to befriend or be in a relationship with (they are sociopaths), as they will have the tendency to be abusive towards you, cheat on you, dump you, etc. Such people don't see anything wrong with themselves, and have a low rate of cure (changing themselves for the better). Thus, you'll be likely stuck with an abusive sociopath for the rest of your life while they destroy you and hurt you.
Psychological damage in individuals caused by abusive people/sociopaths can lead to mental health problems (ex. depression, anxiety, PTSD, etc.) which can further lead to other health problems (hypertension and it's complications, tobacco use, alcohol and drug abuse, obesity, disability, death, etc.). Hence, abusive people/sociopaths are a menace to society.
Many Indian/Malayalee women are narcissistic sociopaths who destroy Indian men. When you think about it carefully, you'll realize that men are wired to have a survival mentality (i.e. do whatever is needed, whatever job- even a small underpaying job and not be squeamish about it). That is the mentality you need to survive in today's corrupt world. Indian women bring their narcissistic competition to destroy man's mentality and their self-esteem. Like I said before, every women you come across (starting from mothers, relatives, etc.), you'll see that in them. Women compete with each other and tear each other down. They are so nasty that they'll bring their husband and kids into their ongoing narcissistic war. Many men want a minimalist lifestyle (not chasing the things of the world and trying to live a simple life), but it is the woman (because of her ongoing war with other women) who won't let that happen. If she sees that other women have better things, she will get under your skin so that you will provide her with the things she needs in order to match up and outdo her female competition. Satan has passed on his narcissistic sociopathic qualities onto women. All women are born with this sinful nature. Unless, they humble themselves before God and fix their own character and remove their narcissism and love for the worldly things, they go on their own path to destruction while trying to take their husbands and kids down with them. They are the most dangerous vipers I've come across. Nothing even in the animal kingdom is so vile and dangerous (animals can't lead your heart away from God into eternal destruction). What was the cause of Solomon's fall? Women. He had 1,000 wives which led his heart away from God. From a young age, boys try to win the affection of girls and their love and commitment. What do girls make them do? Jump hoops for them. In fact, girls love it when guys compete with each other in order to win their affection. As they get older and when the time of marriage comes, girls look at your bank balance. Women see men's worth through their financial status. In other words, I don't think they really love the guy they're marrying- they just love the money they're marrying into. Money gives them the power, high status position, and material goods they need to fuel and supply their narcissistic war. Bunch of sociopaths who have the very character of Satan (they are the daughters of the devil). Guys compete each other today either to win women's interest or because the women they already have (wives/girlfriends) make them compete with others.
Women are one of the most powerful influential sources which lead men astray (turning their hearts away from God and instead onto worldly things) as well as destroy them.
1 Corinthians chapter 7 also sheds light on how women cause divided interests in men, even in marriage. This can affect your service to God. The Bible never abolishes marriage in the current age, thus no one can say that it is wrong to get married. However, the Bible is clear that marriage is not for everyone- i.e. people have the option to choose whether or not to get married according to their circumstances and desires. People today are so obsessed about their degrees and jobs (i.e. trying to get the most prestigious one). No matter what job you have (great or small), you're in a slave system (which no one will want to easily admit today). Additionally, there is a hierarchy (social class/status) built into the modern slave system- which gives perks (material things/wealth) to those who are able to climb the ladder of competition. However, this ladder of competition can have spiritual consequences. As you develop a narcissistic mentality and love for the world, there is tendency for your heart to turn away from God. There is a tendency for you to destroy others in order to successfully climb the ladder of success instead of the Biblical call to consider others better than yourself, to humble yourself and to build each other up.
1 Cor. 7:7-9,20-24,26-35 (NLT):
"But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another.
8 So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. 9 But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.
20 Yes, each of you should remain as you were when God called you. 21 Are you a slave? Don’t let that worry you—but if you get a chance to be free, take it. 22 And remember, if you were a slave when the Lord called you, you are now free in the Lord. And if you were free when the Lord called you, you are now a slave of Christ. 23 God paid a high price for you, so don’t be enslaved by the world. 24 Each of you, dear brothers and sisters, should remain as you were when God first called you.
26 Because of the present crisis, I think it is best to remain as you are. 27 If you have a wife, do not seek to end the marriage. If you do not have a wife, do not seek to get married. 28 But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, those who get married at this time will have troubles, and I am trying to spare you those problems.
29 But let me say this, dear brothers and sisters: The time that remains is very short. So from now on, those with wives should not focus only on their marriage. 30 Those who weep or who rejoice or who buy things should not be absorbed by their weeping or their joy or their possessions. 31 Those who use the things of the world should not become attached to them. For this world as we know it will soon pass away.
32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 33 But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 34 His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible."
God's message to all narcissistic sociopathic women:
1 Peter 3:3-5 (NLT):
Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands.
Just take a look at any Malayalee church today. Who influences and causes problems in Malayalee churches today? Women.
Narcissistic sociopathic women compete with each other for power and status in churches today. Women influence their husbands to compete for leadership roles (this is the reason for so much of the church politics, gossip, and character assassinations taking place). Who pushes their children to compete, push over/trample others in order to be no. 1 at everything? Women.
Women are the destructive force (Satan's tool) in such churches today.
Many times, I've felt that God has tried to teach me the same things He goes through in dealing with difficult human beings. God also has to deal with rejection, mistreatment and evil behavior from humans. When I suffer the same things, it allows me to realize that I'm on the same boat with God. Moreover, it allows me to connect with Him and realize that He's all I need.
Even Jesus Christ also came across sociopaths during His time on the earth. There were people (even religious leaders) out to kill him and eventually succeeded. Satan worked through all of them. However, like a true sociopath, Satan brought about his own destruction by getting defeated by Jesus Christ on the cross of Calvary (Satan got his head crushed). Satan hasn't stopped his sociopathic agenda though. He still continues to try and defy God by trying to deceive people to rebel against God and instead become a sociopathic like him. That's why you see people acting like sociopaths just like him. In the future, his end will come in the eternal lake of fire.
As a follower of Christ, you are a target of hatred from others. Satan and his demons (who themselves are sociopaths) influence people to hate God and His children. You're an outsider to them. However, Christ has chosen us to come out from this world (separate ourselves away from spiritual darkness) and thereby, be outsiders in the world's view. The evil forces of spiritual darkness in this world hate us because of that. The people who are foolish enough to be led and be deceived by Satan (to act like sociopaths) bring about their own condemnation as they are guilty of not only having hatred against their fellow human beings, but also against Jesus and God the Father.
I have no idea how Jesus was able to put up with the dangerous sociopaths during His time on earth.
John 15:18-25 (NLT):
“If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first. 19 The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world. I chose you to come out of the world, so it hates you. 20 Do you remember what I told you? ‘A slave is not greater than the master.’ Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you. And if they had listened to me, they would listen to you. 21 They will do all this to you because of me, for they have rejected the one who sent me. 22 They would not be guilty if I had not come and spoken to them. But now they have no excuse for their sin. 23 Anyone who hates me also hates my Father. 24 If I hadn’t done such miraculous signs among them that no one else could do, they would not be guilty. But as it is, they have seen everything I did, yet they still hate me and my Father. 25 This fulfills what is written in their Scriptures: ‘They hated me without cause.’
John 8:42-47 (NLT):
"Jesus told them, “If God were your Father, you would love me, because I have come to you from God. I am not here on my own, but he sent me. 43 Why can’t you understand what I am saying? It’s because you can’t even hear me! 44 For you are the children of your father the devil, and you love to do the evil things he does. He was a murderer from the beginning. He has always hated the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45 So when I tell the truth, you just naturally don’t believe me! 46 Which of you can truthfully accuse me of sin? And since I am telling you the truth, why don’t you believe me? 47 Anyone who belongs to God listens gladly to the words of God. But you don’t listen because you don’t belong to God.”
1 John 3:7-10 (NLT):
"Dear children, don’t let anyone deceive you about this: When people do what is right, it shows that they are righteous, even as Christ is righteous. 8 But when people keep on sinning, it shows that they belong to the devil, who has been sinning since the beginning. But the Son of God came to destroy the works of the devil. 9 Those who have been born into God’s family do not make a practice of sinning, because God’s life is in them. So they can’t keep on sinning, because they are children of God. 10 So now we can tell who are children of God and who are children of the devil. Anyone who does not live righteously and does not love other believers does not belong to God."
From my past rejections and contempt at the hands of women, I've learned how to transform such negative things into joy by looking at the example of Jesus Christ. Christ also suffered rejection and contempt. However, Christ lived His life on earth by looking at His future reward from God. He learned to see through His suffering onto His prize awaiting Him. Jesus knew that if He endured His suffering, God would would exalt Him and would make His enemies His footstool.
Update- Today morning (11/28/2015), when I woke up, I felt that it was God waking me up to talk to my heart. He woke me up to speak to my heart in the morning- a message for me and anyone who else is reading this. I'll share the lessons with you. You may be trying to find that special someone to have a godly and romantic relationship with as a spouse, but finding it difficult because of various reasons. People may treat you as if you're not good enough for them (friendship wise, dating/marriage/romance, etc.). Let it be. Remember, you live in a fallen and corrupt world, and moreover, you can't force anyone to accept you. Everyone has free will (no matter who tries to deny that) and you have to respect that- and so they have the ability to love/accept others or hate/reject others. That is a good thing when used in the right way (especially in regards to something like marriage- no one should be forced to marry someone they don't really like). Some people use that free will for good to help others, show mercy to others, and to glorify God. However, many don't and instead use it for their own glory and selfish ambitions. You can't control that. Remember that no human love/affection can replace God's love for you. How many people you know in your life would be able to put aside their glory, humble themselves to come and rescue you in order to ultimately exalt you/lift you up to a position of glory? I don't know a single person like that in my life. We tend to expect passionate and committed love from our future spouses (or people try to look for that through premarital relationships/dating), however, people have the high tendency to fail. How many premarital relationships work out into marriage instead of branching out into promiscuity? How much of that carries over to marriage and branches out into divorces? My point is- the world has corrupted the concept of love. The world has perverted love into promiscuity and lust through dating. Dating itself is not wrong as long as the physical/sexual involvement is eliminated before marriage. Love should be passionate, romantic, erotic (confined to marriage), and committed, however, it should be sacrificial also. Such a sacrificial component tends to be deficient in the love humans offer today. I believe only God doesn't fail to offer that. Whenever you feel like you are missing out on love through human relationships, remember of God's love for you through the work on the cross of Calvary. Let that love fill your mind and the void in your heart. He didn't spare His own Son for you out of His own love for you. It's not that God didn't love His own Son, but He wanted to share His love for the rest of the world. He displayed what sacrificial love really is. I don't think it's possible to love God with all your heart and mind and still keep something else no. 1 in your heart and mind (ex. a human relationship). God asked Abraham to sacrifice his own son, Isaac. God was testing Abraham's loyalty and love for Him- who did Abraham love more- God or his own son. God is a jealous God and He requires our hearts and minds to place him above everything else in this world (spouse, children, material things, etc.). God tested Job in a similar manner, but even went further to take away his family from him. Job passed the test faithfully without cursing God or abandoning Him. How many of us can pass such a test of love and faithfulness to God?
In order to pass that difficult test, you need to be able to replace whatever the object of adoration that you have in your heart and mind- with God's love for you. When you remember God's love for you, you'll know that nothing in this world is greater than that. Then it becomes easier for you to put God always first in your life.
I've learned the difficult way in the past that Calvinists are the wrong people to befriend and moreover marrying. Anyone who thinks that they have unlimited grace from God (living under the dispensation of grace as they claim) to sin is clearly a dangerous sociopath. If they have no problems abusing God's grace, they could care less of hurting you in any manner. As it is, narcissism and sociopathy are prevalent personality disorders among Indians (especially among women). Calvinism is clearly a sociopathic ideology. Hence, if you fuel their narcissistic sociopathy with Calvinism- they end up being monsters. The more I've looked at the Brethren, I've seen and experienced this. When carnal Christians marry each other- the end product is ungodly children. The the modern Brethren churches are examples of this. When I've seen ungodly youth among the Brethren, I looked at their parents to see how they behaved and ungodliness was seen among them. Calvinism is Satan's tool to create sociopaths (his very own children). Hence, I've learned that it would be dumb to seek a spouse who is a Calvinist or similar Protestant ideology. A person's view regarding salvation and sin gives major clues to their psychology (mentality) and hence can warn you of ungodly people. I've learned that God desires His children to seek godly people to marry all in order to produce godly children.
Malachi 2:15 (NLT):
"Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth."
Proverbs 5:3-6 (NLT):
"For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
and her mouth is smoother than oil.
4 But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
as dangerous as a double-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 For she cares nothing about the path to life.
She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it."
2 Cor. 6:14-15 (NLT):
"Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? 15 What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?"
2 Timothy 3:1-9 (authorized KJV):
"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4 traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5 having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. 6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, 7 ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. 8 Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. 9 But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men, as theirs also was."
1 Timothy 4:1-2 (NLT):
"Now the Holy Spirit tells us clearly that in the last times some will turn away from the true faith; they will follow deceptive spirits and teachings that come from demons. 2 These people are hypocrites and liars, and their consciences are dead."
1 Cor. 5:11 (NLT):
"I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people."